Happy New Year to you all...!! I certainly saw the New Year in well...
So I had gotten to know a guy online and through texts a little bit. We had talked about going out on a date at some point but it turned out we were going to be going to the same party at New Year's Eve.
I was determined to really let my hair down and have a great time since my 2yo's on holiday from daycare and the four walls can drive you a bit potty in this wet weather.. It was a cocktail party/pool party. So I bought a nice dress and had a blast concocting a whole range of cocktails... I quickly made friends with a few single girls and we had some great laughs.
He turned up a couple hours late wearing a tuxedo and a bow tie. They took a photo of him with a martini glass in his hand. Everyone knew him but we had never met and no one knew we'd been corresponding prior to the party. I was introduced to him, and I think we were both a bit nervous and shy but as the night progressed we just relaxed amongst the group and because he had brought me a "Pina Colada mixer" since I was complaining prior to the party that all the recipes couldn't agree on what kind of rum went into it I said I would give him a kiss at midnight since I was so anxious about whether I'd get my Pina Colada right. I have no idea whether this makes any sense to you because I am nursing a bit of a hangover and have had about one hour's sleep.
Meanwhile, a few of us girls had snuck up the driveway to have a ciggie and the conversation turned to the man in question. I think I might have said something about how I thought he liked me and one of the girls said "oh he just likes everyone" and declared they all were planning on giving him a midnight kiss. One of the girls had a traumatic episode of her ex assaulting her very badly and was currently in a friends-with-benefits situation pretending that she doesn't fancy the guy but it was fairly clear that she really did. The other girl was 6 weeks post-breakup from her ex-fiance. So certainly some fresh pain in their lives.
So midnight came and he gave me a kiss and it was nice, and then he gave me another one and there was just a little spark. From what I could see (and I wasn't really watching that closely) everyone else just got a peck on the cheek. Afterwards, one of the girls I had really got along well with all night (6 weeks out of a relationship) suddenly started calling me a bitch during our drunken conversation about [let's call him Mr Bond shall we?] Mr Bond. She said I was being a bitch by getting worried about what she would think about my being with him and said to me "I don't give a shit..." etc. It was really horrible. I'd spent 6hrs talking and laughing with this girl and I couldn't understand whether it was the booze or her true personality and issues showing. When Mr Bond came back with our cocktails I tried to reassure her that I liked her, we were friends etc etc. and had a bit of a laugh about something but truth be told I barely saw her for the remainder of the night after that.
Mr Bond managed to talk me into getting my swimsuit out of the car to go in the pool and that he would escort me. He had been talking about it and insisting that we go for a while and when we were outside I honestly don't really remember how it happened but we were kissing and he was holding me... Back in the pool he didn't hide his affection for me and held me, kissed me, cuddled me in the pool even though once in a while I still tried to be part of the group and talk to the others and even went up for another ciggie with the girl in the friends-with-benefits relationship. She had started to be very cold towards me but while we were on the driveway and I asked her about herself and responded to her with lots of positive comments, she was great. However the moment we joined the others her indifference remained and all conversations and plans we had made to meet up with her later in the week at her apartment ("and bring your son!") were suddenly empty promises as she showed me very clearly with her body language that she didn't want to hug me goodbye and had a vague non-commital response to my now bringing up that I might see her later in the week at her place. It was really awful. Even Mr Bond noticed and said to me "you've done nothing wrong." Apparently earlier in the evening she had brushed her leg up against him so I guess she was annoyed that he'd obviously wanted me and not her.
It is so sad to me that women can be so jealous of each other instead of wishing each other well. I mean, she had met Mr Bond once before and so it's unlikely that she had a real thing for him otherwise I could understand her reaction to me. I kind of wish Mr Bond had not been so open about his affection for me in front of everyone but as he said, we didn't do anything wrong by doing so. So I guess that was the dampener of the evening. That and my ex-husband ringing me about 10 x between 3 and 4am because he was having a hard time getting our son to sleep!
As for the rest, I won't kiss and tell :) Just to say that I hope that we will see each other soon and that I can get to know him better and see if the attraction is really a match - whether he's someone I could really fall in-love with.
It's weird when you get together with someone while you've had too much to drink because it's decisions you've made that you might have or might not have made while sober and it's all a bit of a fog, so I'm hoping that I will hear from him again and we can get to know each other better so I can make a decision while sober!!! What I will say is that he is funny, intelligent and good looking (great body - works out!)...
So fingers crossed...
So I had gotten to know a guy online and through texts a little bit. We had talked about going out on a date at some point but it turned out we were going to be going to the same party at New Year's Eve.
I was determined to really let my hair down and have a great time since my 2yo's on holiday from daycare and the four walls can drive you a bit potty in this wet weather.. It was a cocktail party/pool party. So I bought a nice dress and had a blast concocting a whole range of cocktails... I quickly made friends with a few single girls and we had some great laughs.
He turned up a couple hours late wearing a tuxedo and a bow tie. They took a photo of him with a martini glass in his hand. Everyone knew him but we had never met and no one knew we'd been corresponding prior to the party. I was introduced to him, and I think we were both a bit nervous and shy but as the night progressed we just relaxed amongst the group and because he had brought me a "Pina Colada mixer" since I was complaining prior to the party that all the recipes couldn't agree on what kind of rum went into it I said I would give him a kiss at midnight since I was so anxious about whether I'd get my Pina Colada right. I have no idea whether this makes any sense to you because I am nursing a bit of a hangover and have had about one hour's sleep.
Meanwhile, a few of us girls had snuck up the driveway to have a ciggie and the conversation turned to the man in question. I think I might have said something about how I thought he liked me and one of the girls said "oh he just likes everyone" and declared they all were planning on giving him a midnight kiss. One of the girls had a traumatic episode of her ex assaulting her very badly and was currently in a friends-with-benefits situation pretending that she doesn't fancy the guy but it was fairly clear that she really did. The other girl was 6 weeks post-breakup from her ex-fiance. So certainly some fresh pain in their lives.
So midnight came and he gave me a kiss and it was nice, and then he gave me another one and there was just a little spark. From what I could see (and I wasn't really watching that closely) everyone else just got a peck on the cheek. Afterwards, one of the girls I had really got along well with all night (6 weeks out of a relationship) suddenly started calling me a bitch during our drunken conversation about [let's call him Mr Bond shall we?] Mr Bond. She said I was being a bitch by getting worried about what she would think about my being with him and said to me "I don't give a shit..." etc. It was really horrible. I'd spent 6hrs talking and laughing with this girl and I couldn't understand whether it was the booze or her true personality and issues showing. When Mr Bond came back with our cocktails I tried to reassure her that I liked her, we were friends etc etc. and had a bit of a laugh about something but truth be told I barely saw her for the remainder of the night after that.
Mr Bond managed to talk me into getting my swimsuit out of the car to go in the pool and that he would escort me. He had been talking about it and insisting that we go for a while and when we were outside I honestly don't really remember how it happened but we were kissing and he was holding me... Back in the pool he didn't hide his affection for me and held me, kissed me, cuddled me in the pool even though once in a while I still tried to be part of the group and talk to the others and even went up for another ciggie with the girl in the friends-with-benefits relationship. She had started to be very cold towards me but while we were on the driveway and I asked her about herself and responded to her with lots of positive comments, she was great. However the moment we joined the others her indifference remained and all conversations and plans we had made to meet up with her later in the week at her apartment ("and bring your son!") were suddenly empty promises as she showed me very clearly with her body language that she didn't want to hug me goodbye and had a vague non-commital response to my now bringing up that I might see her later in the week at her place. It was really awful. Even Mr Bond noticed and said to me "you've done nothing wrong." Apparently earlier in the evening she had brushed her leg up against him so I guess she was annoyed that he'd obviously wanted me and not her.
It is so sad to me that women can be so jealous of each other instead of wishing each other well. I mean, she had met Mr Bond once before and so it's unlikely that she had a real thing for him otherwise I could understand her reaction to me. I kind of wish Mr Bond had not been so open about his affection for me in front of everyone but as he said, we didn't do anything wrong by doing so. So I guess that was the dampener of the evening. That and my ex-husband ringing me about 10 x between 3 and 4am because he was having a hard time getting our son to sleep!
As for the rest, I won't kiss and tell :) Just to say that I hope that we will see each other soon and that I can get to know him better and see if the attraction is really a match - whether he's someone I could really fall in-love with.
It's weird when you get together with someone while you've had too much to drink because it's decisions you've made that you might have or might not have made while sober and it's all a bit of a fog, so I'm hoping that I will hear from him again and we can get to know each other better so I can make a decision while sober!!! What I will say is that he is funny, intelligent and good looking (great body - works out!)...
So fingers crossed...
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