So after no texts from Mr Bond "the day after" the midnight kiss... I texted him at around 2pm to tell him I'd had a nice time with him - no reply. A few hours later my anxiety got the better of me and I phoned him to find out whether we were going to be seeing each other in the future. I know - it's not how the girl plays the game... but I couldn't cope with the thought of days of wondering and would rather know either way.
The first good sign was that he answered the phone. The second was saying yes he did want to see me again and suggested that once he had moved into his new place that I could go over for dinner that week. While out with my girlfriend I said to her I didn't know whether he was just saying that to avoid conflict or meant it but on his moving day he texted me and asked me if I wanted to get together that night for a takeaway. So he came over and we had dinner and wine together. Not too much wine this time!!!
I guess what it confirmed for me was that I enjoyed spending time with him, enjoyed talking with him, he made me laugh, he's attractive (oh yeah I knew that part) and intelligent and we had a natural spark between us.
We talked about where things were at briefly and it seems to me that he wants to date (but not yet be exclusive). I guess people take time to get to know someone in order to make a decision about someone so it's fair enough but it doesn't quite feel right to me that I would see other people.
We have talked about going for walks on the beach or to the movies and dinner or to another group event he's planned this week so it's nice to know we'll be seeing each other again soon...
The first good sign was that he answered the phone. The second was saying yes he did want to see me again and suggested that once he had moved into his new place that I could go over for dinner that week. While out with my girlfriend I said to her I didn't know whether he was just saying that to avoid conflict or meant it but on his moving day he texted me and asked me if I wanted to get together that night for a takeaway. So he came over and we had dinner and wine together. Not too much wine this time!!!
I guess what it confirmed for me was that I enjoyed spending time with him, enjoyed talking with him, he made me laugh, he's attractive (oh yeah I knew that part) and intelligent and we had a natural spark between us.
We talked about where things were at briefly and it seems to me that he wants to date (but not yet be exclusive). I guess people take time to get to know someone in order to make a decision about someone so it's fair enough but it doesn't quite feel right to me that I would see other people.
We have talked about going for walks on the beach or to the movies and dinner or to another group event he's planned this week so it's nice to know we'll be seeing each other again soon...
This is a good read & my views are very similar. I met a guy a while back and there were some feelings there. The more we txt and talked it grew, he was the type of guy I had been looking for. We would txt every day, then one day I never replied to him, he was ringing and I didn't answer, not because I didn't want to, but insecurity had got the better of me. It was this voice in my head saying don't answer your just going to get hurt. Our friendship was never quite the same after that, I found it hard to explain how I felt about him. Then he found someone else & it felt like a dagger pierced straight through my heart. I stopped all contact with him, because I did not want to be that sort of woman, and I knew being just friends wasn't an option at that time. He has since got in touch with me again, the relationship he got into didn't last. I’ve confessed my feelings for him, but it seems like he pussy foots around the fact and it leaves me confused. He won't tell me how he feels, if he would rather just be friends or if he feels something too. It makes me really uncomfortable, because I do not know how to feel towards him, walking on egg shells is not a nice feeling. I’m starting to think maybe I should just try to meet other people, but I wouldn't be true to my heart but on the other hand what can you do when the other party gives you absolutely nothing to work with.... we shall see:) Im glad in your case so far you got a responce... excited!!
ReplyDeleteHi Hunny Bee thanks for all your comments. Reading your story (and I'm no expert and full of my own faults as you can see by this blog) but from what you've shared it strikes me that the man you are keen on "is just not that into you." I think he is keeping you around as a backup or to aid his ego. In my experience, if a man likes you and wants you, he tells you and he goes after you. If he doesn't then he won't. It's that simple. I think the only time they hesitate is when they think you're out of their league and they're too shy to tell you but you've given him the opportunity and he hasn't been straight with you. Personally, I think you should ditch him and give your heart time to heal and when it has, join me in the journey of finding someone who will reciprocate your feelings. It's a hard road but perhaps your's won't be as hard as mine?? :)
ReplyDeletegood advice to hunny bee :)
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