Osteopath Crush

Well it's been very quiet on the dating front, sadly.  Although I have to say that when I was seeing the student Osteopath today and her drop-dead gorgeous tutor walked in I thought to myself, surely this would count as Date #19?  After all, I was lying prostrate and half-naked and he put his hands on me (admittedly it was my neck he put his hands on - but he had a good view of my boobs pointing up towards the ceiling).  Not to mention the fact that he had put aftershave on for the occasion and smelt divine!  I found myself feeling in equal measures proud and embarrassed of the mammoth size of my boobs (it is seriously shocking what pregnancy and breastfeeding did to my boobs and now DD is a distant memory...)  He left with a smile and wishing me a good weekend.  To be honest, it's better than many of the dates I've been on so far!  Ok, admittedly he might have manipulated and made my neck crack a bit which other dates have not done, but certainly relieved pain rather than added to it.

I am going to keep my 4:30pm Friday appointment and start wearing makeup and doing my hair and not wearing dire clothes like I was today or my unflattering jeans or my shoes that make my feet stink when I take them off.  And I'm going to spray myself with perfume and peppermint spray my stinky feet and make sure I give him eye contact and flirt a little whilst sucking in my tummy...  And might even mention that to my student Osteo that I think her tutor is cute - as long as he's not wearing a wedding ring.  But let's face it - he's probably taken.

Moving on...

My many conversations with numerous interesting and attractive men seem to have fizzled on my Findsomeone/NZ Dating websites.  I'm wondering why this is.  Those of you who are in the world of internet dating, perhaps you can tell me what your experiences are and what you think is going on?  It's not like any of these men have suggested that we meet up (as yet), but clearly they are interested, otherwise why would they bother to chat backwards and forwards?  And because I want to know that he's into me and therefore to do the inviting out (and also I want to get to know them a bit before I meet up with them), I often chat to them for a little while at least.  But eventually (and by eventually I mean maybe a week or two at the most), he doesn't reply to my last message and so it sort of "fizzes".

What I want to know is - why is it fizzing?  Is it because I need to move faster and suggest we talk on the phone or meet up because invariably he is also talking to other women and met them and they've begun something?  Or is it because of something I have said that they've decided I'm not for them or they've just lost interest?  Or something else?

Anyway, all is not lost as I have a few other things I'm going to try:

1) a singles social group where we meet up socially about once or maybe twice a month (still haven't got to know people well yet)
2) I've organized an event via the internet dating sites while I'm away attending a course in a nearby city and invited all the yummiest guys I could find in the area.. course other women will be there (sadly) :)
3) I'm attending another event here in Auckland where through the events on the dating site Find Someone with about 80 other people
4) I'm going to speed dating next week (not Verity's speed dating but another one)

So I'm still putting myself out there... fingers crossed I'll have more to report soon :)