We will call Date #1 Scott (Scott-no-kids). Scott and I agreed to meet after several messages on the dating website "Plenty of Fish." I found him sitting outside waiting for me at a cafe on the North Shore looking as nervous as I felt. He offered to pay for my coffee and I accepted. We sat in the sun and talked about our lives and I thought he was very handsome when he smiled. Most of our conversation was about our marriage breakups and subsequent journeys recovering from that. Not the best topic for a first date but I was a rookie. It ended well, we messaged again and found ourselves on a 2nd date that involved coffee, a walk on the beach and a drive in the countryside. I discovered that Scott wasn't entirely ready for a relationship and wanted to be friends first. He also never wanted to have kids (which I can't relate to) and announced when the car came to a stop that he wasn't sure he could date someone who had kids.
After such a pleasant time this was a huge disappointment and I later sent him a message saying that I thought it was best if we left it at that. My son comes as a package with me and his uncertainty about whether he could embrace that wasn't a risk I wanted to take in terms of my heart.
Much, much later I met up again with Scott for a friendly drink but we had very little to talk about and it was clear that there was no connection there.
After such a pleasant time this was a huge disappointment and I later sent him a message saying that I thought it was best if we left it at that. My son comes as a package with me and his uncertainty about whether he could embrace that wasn't a risk I wanted to take in terms of my heart.
Much, much later I met up again with Scott for a friendly drink but we had very little to talk about and it was clear that there was no connection there.
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